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The only way to protect yourself from flatterers is to show them that the truth does not offend you.

Niccolò Machiavelli · Principele · 1532 · Capitolul XXIII1 minute readpublic domain
Indeed, there is no other way of guarding oneself from flattery than by letting men understand that they will not offend you by telling the truth.Niccolò Machiavelli · Principele · 1532 · Capitolul XXIII

To rid yourself of flatterers, you must demonstrate that the truth does not anger you.

Machiavelli identifies flattery as a major danger for a leader: flatterers say what he wants to hear, not what he needs to know. To get rid of them, a prince must create a climate where people are not afraid to tell the truth. If a counselor knows he will be punished for bad news, he will lie. For example, a CEO who punishes constructive criticism will be surrounded by yes-men and will make wrong decisions.

Why it mattersIn any organization or relationship, encouraging honesty is the only antidote to interested lies; those who surround themselves with flatterers deceive themselves.

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