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We judge other people's situations with lucidity and our own with fear and passion, which is why we cannot follow the advice we give.

Luc de Vauvenargues · Reflecții și maxime · 1746 · Maxima 3901 minute readpublic domain
It is easier to be wise for others than for oneself.Luc de Vauvenargues · Reflecții și maxime · 1746 · Maxima 390

We see other people's lives clearly because we don't live them with their fear.

Distance makes the difference: we see other people's problems from above, without the fear, pride, or desire that clouds our own decisions. A friend tells you plainly that your relationship is toxic but cannot see his own situation as clearly. It is the classic case of the eye that cannot see itself. That is why people seek advisers, mentors, therapists: not because these know more, but because they look from outside our storm.

Why it mattersExplains why it is worth asking a clear-headed friend before a big decision, even when you have all the information yourself.

Others' problemsYour own problems
The balance: distance brings clarity, closeness brings fear

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