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Many are called friends, but few stay loyal when loyalty costs something.

Publilius Syrus · Sentințe · -50 · 6191 minute readpublic domain
Common is the name of friend, but rare is fidelity.Publilius Syrus · Sentințe · -50 · 619

The name of friend is given for free, but loyalty is paid only when it costs something.

Syrus separates the word from the reality: the title of friend is handed out easily, at parties and in good times, but the essence of friendship — fidelity — only shows itself under trial. The mechanism is the test of cost: anyone can be a friend when nothing is asked; the difference appears when staying close means loss, shame, or effort. A businessman in his glory days has a crowd of "friends"; after bankruptcy, those who still answer his phone can be counted on one hand — and only they deserve the name.

Why it mattersA practical test for evaluating your real relationships, and for not investing trust in those who show up only when you're useful.

Good times: allfriendsruin arrivessome quietly vanishfew stay loyal
From the same premise, two opposite outcomes

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