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Be honest with yourself in both directions: don't claim virtues you lack, but don't hide the ones you have.

Epictet · Manualul · 125 · capitolul 471 minute readpublic domain
Do not be proud of qualities you do not have; but do not deny yourself the credit for those you do have.Epictet · Manualul · 125 · capitolul 47

Honesty with yourself cuts both ways: claim nothing you lack, hide nothing you have.

Epictet aims at a rare balance: false arrogance and false modesty are equally damaging. The first makes you ridiculous and dependent on others' approval; the second stops you from using what you have, out of fear of seeming proud. The mechanism is Stoic: an accurate judgment of yourself is the foundation of every good decision. Someone who knows exactly what they know and what they don't learns efficiently, and their work carries real weight. An accountant who says "I don't know tax law, but my ledgers are flawless" is more credible than one who claims to know everything.

Why it mattersToday it helps in job interviews, workplace evaluations, and any situation where exaggerated modesty costs real opportunities.

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The Stoic balance: false arrogance and false modesty are equally wrong

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