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The most subtle lie is the one we tell ourselves.

François de La Rochefoucauld · Maxime · 1665 · Maxima 1151 minute readpublic domain
There is no lie so subtle as the one we tell ourselves.François de La Rochefoucauld · Maxime · 1665 · Maxima 115

Self-deception is the most subtle and dangerous lie.

La Rochefoucauld explores self-deception, the most dangerous form of deceit because it is hard to detect. We convince ourselves we act from noble motives when we are actually selfish, or that a toxic relationship is good for us. For example, someone staying in an unsatisfying job may claim loyalty, when in fact they fear change.

Why it mattersAwareness of this tendency can help us be more self-critical and make more authentic decisions.

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The self-deception loop perpetuates itself.

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