“Anger is not suited to man's nature, but to his habits.”Seneca · Despre mânie · 45 · cartea 2, capitolul 19
Anger is not nature but habit: each repeated outburst trains it, and unlearning uses the same mechanism.
Seneca rejects the familiar excuses: that is just who I am, I have a short fuse. If anger were natural, it would appear from birth and in the same form in everyone; instead, it varies with environment and grows through repetition. Each successful outburst strengthens the habit, like a trained muscle. The good news is that the same mechanism works in reverse: delaying the response and starving the triggers gradually wear the habit down. Someone who realizes he shouts only because shouting was normal at home can choose differently.
Why it matters Useful for anyone who loses their temper in traffic, at work, or at home with children. Seeing anger as habit rather than destiny opens the door to real change.